Is the grass really greener on the other side?

I love this topic, because I think everyone is searching for “HAPPINESS.”   The problem is that what makes me happy may be different from the next person.   


Now, as people are trying to figure out “what makes them happy,” there are usually some questions that follow or scenarios that play out…..


“If I had a better paying job, I could pay my bills, take vacations, be less stressed.”


“If I lived in ___city, I would have more opportunity.”


“If I had a record deal, I would have the necessary backing for my career to jump off.”


These are just a few random examples to create a clear picture.  


There is this continuous notion that the grass is greener on the other side.   There is one thing that all of these statements have in common, and it’s a single minded perspective. 

Unfortunately, life doesn’t just hand us over every great opportunity out there.   There has to be a perspective change.   


What if we took those scenarios, and flipped it around to focus on the aspects that we can control.  Let’s take the first example.


“If I had a better paying job, I could pay my bills, take vacations, be less stressed.”


Better paying job

-       Do you know exactly what you want to do for your career?

-       Are you getting the education you need?

-       Are you finding resources or people in that field that can mentor you?


Bills and less stress

-       Are you living below your means?

-       Are you planning for emergencies?  You know your car will eventually need some work.  Are you planning for that?

-       Are you saving at all?  Even if it’s $20 a paycheck?

-       Do you know exactly where your money is going from your paycheck?


These are all questions that focus on the aspects that you can control.   It speaks to creating the happiness that you desire for your life.   No one is going to give you anything.   Life is not going to hand you the perfect scenario. 


Let’s tackle music next…….

Obviously this one hits home for me since I’m a passionate musician.    I remember the very moment when I knew I wasn’t making progress that I had to do something different.   I began to invest in myself.   I created a small music budget and worked toward getting my own gear, learning the equipment, and finding great resources that could make my music come to life.   I bought a vocal booth, mic, computer, software, and went to work.   I grew vocally, musically, and I didn’t have to spend a bunch of money in a studio when I knew I needed to work on my craft.   It was a win-win situation for me.   If I would’ve waited on “the opportunity” to come, I would’ve never grown.  I focused on the things that I could control.  


You don’t have to go to the other side to see if the grass is greener.   You can affect change right where you are and be fulfilled and happy.   



“Create the life you want to live.”